Selafaz Cinta: on Trust and Honesty

I'm not really into watching Malay drama, far away from getting a 'Malay drama syndrome'. This is because I spend most of my time here in university where finding a box of television is even harder than finding ants (my study table was always occupied with ants walking here and there, is it because I am too sweet? okay let's ignore this). And I am not the person who like to watch a drama from the middle; I have this mindset of 'if you don't start it from the really beginning, then why should you start it from the middle?' hahaha it's a really bad mindset that I have to get rid of.

Anyway I am a really bigggggggggg fan of Korean drama. It started when I was in form 3, I guess. I think it was due to hormonal changes haha but honestly, I really prefer watching Korean drama a lot than watching a Malay drama as I really concern a lot on the story line of a drama. I don't really like watching a love story where everything is only about love (there was some Korean drama which are love-based and somehow I found it kinda bit boring) probably because I am single upps okay I am not promoting myself here, don't get the idea wrong. My preference type of drama would be a love story with some mystery thing, I don't even know how to explain this but I think 'While You Were Sleeping' suits best with the definition and I am really into a prosecutor and law-based Korean drama. It was really mind-blown, you should try watching it. And yeah, talking about Korean drama, they all have great osts, i am really a huge fans of Korean osts, high-five if you are like me as well :D

As to compare with Malay drama, I found the story line a little bit typical, (I am not saying all Malay drama is, there are some Malay drama that have a really great story line and great messages behind), but somehow I can really guess how the story goes. It started with two couple marrying (either secara paksa atau secara rela), then there will be some parents objection due to pangkat and harta, and there will be this one person (usually a woman) who is obsessed on getting that one married man (i mean hey girl, there are really a lot of men out there kenapa nak kacau suami orang hmmm) and the interesting part is that woman selalunya akan berkomplot with a guy who want that married woman as well and they will try to destroy this couple's marriage hahaha. And there will be some conflicts here and there, and of being stress, the woman will run away from house (ni memang scene wajib) and then the conflict resolved and at the end the woman got pregnant and they live happily ever after. I'm not blaming any Malay drama here, sometimes Malay drama can get interesting on the conflict part, but it's just me who don't really like that kind of story line, I mean everybody have their own likes and dislikes right? And this makes Korean as my go-to drama when I have some free time.

Okay, lets get back to the main topic here, I guess I am straying too far -,-


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A week ago, I was in my semester break, so I had this time to watch television and as my whole family was watching this one Malay drama called "Selafaz Cinta" and i just don't want to be excluded so I watched it together with them. And guess what I am incredibly really into this drama (though I only watched it from the middle). I don't know what captivated me to this story, probably because the main lead is Saharul Ridzwan (the only one Malay drama that i was into was "Jangan Benci Cintaku" acted by Saharul Ridzwan and Zahirah Macwilson) but this drama really got a place in my heart gituuu.

For those who haven't watched this drama, the story is about a happy married couple, Reza (Saharul Ridzwan) and Jannah (Syatilla Melvin) who once had a really happy family, but suddenly turning topsy-turvy when Reza was found cheating with his ex-lover, Liza (Puteri Aishah). This story is about Reza who is really trying to get back her wife after they got divorced, and there is this one Ustaz Jihad (Aqasha) who is trying to win over Jannah's heart and the story revolves around Jannah's friends who were having some marital issues as well such as lelaki gila talak (I dont know how to say this in english) and lelaki yang suka dera isteri.

For those who have already watch, I know you would scream heartbrokenly remembering the ending (no spoiler alert here), and I was heartbroken even more, as my first class for the new semester coincides with the time where the last episode was aired huhu I didn't managed to watch the last episode together with my family huhu. Even I already know how the story end (though until now I don't have the strength to watch it), but yet I still downloaded the whole drama because I am really into it and thanks to the university super fast wifi, I finished downloading the whole 60 episodes in just a day! And now, i am currently watching this drama every evening as I not the person who study during the evening because it is not good for my brain and this semester I am having a little more free time to relax (read:lazying around) as my schedule is not that really packed, so I think watching an episode or two per day is not wrong right?

The story sound typical (its about lelaki curang) but the conflicts, the way the script was written, the messages behind was suuuuper relatable to our life, thumbs up to the whole production.


Here's to 5 lessons I've learnt by watching Selafaz Cinta

#5 Family love is always there

In this story, Liza is a stubborn girl who really wants to destroy Reza-Jannah marriage for the sake of love and wanting to have rich and wealthy life; and here comes Nurul, Liza's sister who is really trying her best to stop Liza from doing bad things towards other people. In the early episodes, I have the thought that Nurul is a really harsh sister, who always scold Liza all the time, and doesn't even care about her sister but watching throughout the next episodes, I thought it the way around; Nurul is a really kind sister who really loves Liza so much.

People varies in the way of showing their love towards other people i.e some people shows affection by saying "I love you" often, but some people, they just don't! It may be because they don't know how to show their love or its just their way of showing love by not showing it. I was born in a family who never says love-related thingy such as "Saya sayang mak" etc and even saying 'thank you' is hard for us. But I know that the love is always there, I can always feel it even if it is not said by words.

When our family didn't fulfill our request e.g they don't buy us the toys we want, we always thought that we are not being loved and when we are being scolded by our parents for doing something, we always thought that they hate us, but actually its the way around! I always think that family is the system designed by our Creator to protect us and to want the best for us. Whatever they did, trust me it's always for our best. Their scolding, their 'not giving us what we want', there's always good reasons behind it.

I don't know what happens to Liza and Nurul as I am only currently watching till episode 7 (I don't know macammana Liza boleh tetiba hilang haha) but whatever decision that Liza is making, I know there always be Nurul in it.

Because no matter how big our love is towards other people, family love is always there and is always greater.

p/s: I love the scene in episode 7, where Liza said this to Nurul.

"Terima kasih, kak. Betul cakap akak, kalau Liz tengah susah, tengah sakit,

akak sorang je yang ada untuk Liz"

#4 Human being can never be perfect

There are two ustaz character in this story; Ustaz Jihad and Ustaz Faqih; they are siblings. And this Ustaz Jihad is a man who really loves Jannah, and after Jannah and Reza had divorced, he become Jannah's fiance and they are getting married. There was this one scene where Ustaz Jihad get jealous when Jannah was meeting Reza although they had already divorced, and he even always spying on Reza and Jannah and at that time, I heard my father and mother said,

"Apalah, ustaz pun jealous ke sampai nak spy spy orang"
"Ni ustaz moden ni"

At that time, i feel that what my parents are talking really makes sense. I was also thinking that if this how ustaz looks like, should he even be an ustaz in the first place?
Surprisingly, there was this one episode that answers all my question. There was this conversation between Ustaz Faqih and Ustaz Jihad in episode 58, 

" Kadang-kadang abang rasa lucu pulak tengok persepsi masyarakat pada pendakwah,

kadang-kadang diorang ingat pendakwah ni macam maksum pulak"

"Tulah bang kadang-kadang masyarakat tak faham. Itulah tujuan kita berdua ni kan."

I was like Wow, very well said. It's true, seeing how human love to put label on someone or something. Nampak ustaz je baik, nampak pencuri je jahat. Its worst, having this mindset of judging someone without knowing them first. 

Nowadays, see how people define an ustaz is. People always see ustaz as an angel. NO we are not an angel, we are human. We all sin and we sin differently. We are never and we can never be a perfect living creature. What i mean is, we should really stop this labeling kind of thing towards other people. Lets say, if there is a smart person inside the classroom, we always think that 'how is it good to be clever like her' but we don't even know that he/she might be burdened of being a smart person and they too sometimes cry, we never know. So,stop this act of making conclusions on the outer without knowing the inner.

And having said that, this ustaz people, (not just ustaz but other people as well) play a huge responsibilities. If people are having a good expectation on you, then do your best. It is never a waste in trying to be better with the fact in mind that we can never be perfect.

People should expect less.

And the other people should try to be the best.

Its a win-win situation, isn't it.

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I guess its a way too long post, so lets see each other on part 2, shall we?

Adios.  

Brand new start

Assalamualaikum and hello peeps!

I don't know where and how should I start, and I don't really know where exactly this post is going on. But the thing is i am really suuuuuuuuuper excited to write my very first post and there are even butterflies flying all over in my stomach - i know it's exaggerating, but you know, it's real!

It's been almost 2 years since i paused this blogging thingy; I'm not saying I've stopped blogging as there was never a single week in my life that my head did not think about blogging - my every weekends will be filled with the thoughts of blogging again, but at that point, i could say my life sucks. For a brief moment, almost everything was not going well in my life. I've encountered a state of nearly depression; of not being able to adapt my university life, of not having time to revise my lecture notes due to some i-don't-want-to-remember event and I don't even have a laptop to begin with. But my heart was really aching to be back here, to type something and i sometimes even came up with the idea of what i would like to write in this blog when the lecturers are teaching lol.


Okay, forget about all those sad things and now Alhamdulillah, I've already passed the thundery phase of my life.

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What I'm trying to say is in this life, you will be facing a lot of phases; sunny, windy, rainy, thundery - just like how the world has seasons and weathers, so do your life. There will be times where your life will only be filled with heavy rains and thunders rolling here and there, but please never ever blame the world for all the bad days you have because while you were having all these sorts of bad things in your life, there is someone out there who is having a sunny flowery phases in their life. Just like how Selangor might be raining now, Sabah might be having a beautiful sunny day there. So stop being selfish and ignorant, you are sharing this world with others.

What you can do during all those rainy and thundery phases is to pause. Life need a pause. Just like how we cover ourselves with thick blankets and have a deep sleep when it's raining outside, be sure to do the same. Just pause everything you have been doing, take a deep breath and enjoy the smell of the rain. Immerse yourself into the phase that you are in - it is never a mistake for you to grief and cry over sad things for that was why tears are there in the first place.

And when the thunder stopped, lift up your blanket, open the window, go outside and have a brand new start, for a bright sun might be waiting for you.
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Its been hard for me to gather up my strength to write here today, but I am so thankful that I've been surrounded with good souls that are always cheering on me for they are the reasons why I am here right now. I would like to thank these two beautiful girls, Izzah and Fasiihah for your continuous support and for keep asking me "when are you going to update your blog" haha I hope this little short post will make your day.

Its been a super awkward post here, apologize me for the not-so-good English, but I've decided to continue writing in English, (because I am too lazy to think on what kata ganti diri I should be using when I type in Malay) I hope you guys can bear with me. It's gonna be really hard, but i promise it will get better with time, InsyaAllah. I will try to write a new post every Saturday or Sunday, just pray that I will be consistent and passionate to write till the end.


One last word; go for what you love :)


Adios.